In the 7^th verse of the famous love chapter of first Corinthians (1 Cor 13) we are told that love: “is ever ready to believe the best of every person” (AMP). Wow, if we all did that in our conversations what a difference it would make to relationships, families and churches. So often our first reaction to a name or situation is to give our opinion, to criticize or judge whether based on valid facts or not.

The book of Proverbs is replete in advice and wisdom in this area. When we think to talk about others let’s be guided by Proverbs. We are told to guard our mouth (Prov 13:3) and to keep our peace (Prov 11:12); to cover shame or conceal a matter (Prov 12:16; 25:2). “Love covereth all sins” (Prov 10:12; KJV); “A talebearer revealeth secret: but he that is of a faithful spirit concealeth the matter” (Prov 11:13). Our pleasant words of wisdom can bring life and health (Prov 4:20-22; 16:24) and make the heart glad (Prov 12:25).

Perhaps one of the strongest admonishments on this topic is to be found in Proverbs chapter 18 and verse 21: “Death and life are in the power of the tongue: and they that love it shall eat the fruit thereof” (Prov 18:21). That verse hardly needs explanation; we will reap what we sow.

Our discussion of people and issues in conversation should always be positive and aimed at protecting our spirits and the person we are discussing. “A word fitly spoken is like apples of gold in pictures of silver” (Prov 25:11). Amen.

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